I Never Expected to Refer to My Son in the Past Tense

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There was no one in the world who had a better smile than my son, Tommy. At 20-years-old, Tommy was funny and handsome. Often, other adults would approach me and tell me how well-mannered Tommy was. It felt good knowing he was practicing what we had instilled in him. I never expected to find myself in this situation – referring to my child in the past tense. But that became my reality on August 13, 2008, when Tommy was shot at a store in the suburbs of Chicago. Like too many others, my son’s … [Read more...]

My Daughter Died Because a Loaded Gun Was Left Accessible to a Child

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I had my daughter, Stacey, when I was very young – just 19 years old. At 13, Stacey was a sweet, dimpled little girl with an old soul. When we were low on groceries, it was Stacey who would tell me we needed to go to the store. She was caring and big-hearted, often visiting elderly residents in a nearby nursing home who had no visitors. The oldest of three, she took care of her younger brother and sister. And, she loved to bake. In fact, she loved it so much, she even skipped school once so she … [Read more...]

My Younger Brother Died Trying to Save Our Dad

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On a Saturday night in December 2003, I was waiting for a phone call. I was watching football at my home in Los Angeles, CA, but my thoughts were on a different football game taking place in Georgia, where I had grown up. The team on which my dad, Billy Venable, coached and my brother Bill played was competing in the state playoffs. If their team won, they would advance to play in the Georgia Dome the next weekend. “Going to the Dome” had been a goal of the team for a number of years, but it … [Read more...]

My mother was shot to death when I was 5 years old

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It was June of 1980 when my mother, Sharon Neal, was shot and killed during an incident of domestic violence at our home in Louisiana. Her assailant shot her five times: twice in the head and three times in the back. She was just 25 years old. My three brothers and I were very young when our mother was taken from us. I was only 5 years old. Over the course of my life, members of my family told me I was not present when she was killed—perhaps in an attempt to spare me some of the trauma. But … [Read more...]

My son served our country in Afghanistan, but his brother died by gun violence here at home.

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My son, Kenneth, was the center of our family.  He was the first grandchild of the family and became a role model for his younger siblings and cousins. At 31, he was the single parent of two little boys, and had another son on the way. He was responsible and considerate of the people around him.  He had a very strong sense of family and was the one who would organize a barbeque if too much time had passed between family gatherings. It was Super Bowl weekend and Kenneth was the manager at a … [Read more...]

My Baby Made the Ultimate Sacrifice to Save Her Baby’s Life

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My youngest daughter, Monique, was everything a mother could wish for: tall and beautiful, but also humorous, determined, tenacious, loyal, and compassionate. Perhaps what I loved about her most was that she operated “outside of the box.”  When Monique made up her mind to do something, she did it. And she epitomized courage. Some people believe that having courage means simply to be fearless, but, to me, courage means you accept that some things are more important than fear. That’s exactly the … [Read more...]

Tucson shooting survivor: “We must continue to be a voice for those who can no longer speak.”

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I met Gabrielle (Gabby) Giffords when she was a 30-year-old state representative for a district in Tucson, Arizona. As a junior high and high school teacher, I would regularly visit the state capitol to advocate for education. While I got to know many of our state lawmakers, I formed a special bond with Gabby. She had a “constituents come first” attitude and made a tremendous effort to connect with people. Often Gabby and I would meet for coffee to discuss proposed education bills. She became … [Read more...]