Faces of Courage: Dorothy Paugh

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Almost fifty years ago — on what I thought was going to be a fun-filled, relaxing summer day — my father took his life by putting a gun to his head, leaving my mother to raise five children between five and 15 years of age. I was just eight years old and, on that day, the world immediately became less safe to me. While he fought in Burma in World War II, my father didn’t own a gun—that is, until he bought one for the purpose of ending his life. Years later, I joined the Navy and qualified as a … [Read more...]

I Wish She Would’ve Held Me Rather Than That Gun.

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By Khary Penebaker I am a 37-year-old man and I don't remember my mom. I don't know her birthday. I don't know her voice, her touch, her smell. I don't know much about her. On September 8, 1978, she committed suicide with a gun that my grandfather had given her. She died from a self-inflicted gunshot wound to the head, alone in her car. She left behind an infant who would never get to grow up with his mom. For most of my life, I have struggled with two questions: how much could I be worth … [Read more...]

Faces of Courage: Sandra Rougier Frank

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On February 1, 1999, my only child, Teshawn Samuel, was walking around his Brooklyn neighborhood, handing out invitations for his daughter’s fourth birthday party. The details about what happened next are unclear, but Teshawn was approached by four gunman and was shot a total of 17 times with three different guns. As he fell to the ground, he asked for someone to “call my mother” and was able to dictate my phone number. When I arrived at the hospital, Teshawn had already succumbed to his wounds. … [Read more...]

Faces of Courage: Alisha Waters

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At approximately 8:23 am on August 6, 2013, I was standing in the lobby of my work place. I was waiting for the elevator, annoyed at its slowness, when I felt his eyes on me. I left my husband, DJ, in the early spring. From March to August of 2013, DJ stalked me. I had an Emergency Order of Protection, but a judge had just denied my permanent restraining order in April because as he said, there were no signs of physical or sexual abuse. The virulent and persistent emotional abuse apparently … [Read more...]

Faces of Courage: Paula Bowe

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My daughter, Tonya Raines, was loved by everyone she met. Her heart was filled with joy and was as huge as the hole left in my family after her ex-boyfriend murdered her. Tonya dated this man for less than a year. She broke up with him after he became violent with her, first attacking her with a broom handle and another time with an iron. Tonya ended the relationship and got a restraining order. On December 5, 2007, Tonya was visiting a friend in an apartment complex, where the … [Read more...]

Faces of Courage: Debbi Black

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As a mother, my first instincts are to do whatever it takes to protect my children. Raising my two daughters, Yvonne and Nina, I wanted them to know the warning signs of domestic violence. I was open with my girls about the dangers of being in an abusive relationship, because I was in one myself for a long time. I knew firsthand the damage and pain domestic violence can cause, and I hoped my girls would never have to suffer through a situation like I did. When I developed the courage to leave my … [Read more...]

Faces of Courage: Kimberly Brusk

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I grew up in West Michigan. My parents both deer hunt. We had guns at home. I had to take hunters safety classes as an adolescent. My parents stored their guns safely. I’ve never been an anti-gun person and to be honest, I never thought much about things like the connection between guns and domestic violence. That is, until I had experienced that toxic combination firsthand. Looking back, my marriage was abusive almost from the start. But when you are so close to something it's difficult to … [Read more...]